Dear First Gen,
You made it! The first 30 days were light, full of orientation activities, and maybe one or two deadlines. Then another 30 days went by where you gained some responsibilities, and probably made a few mistakes due to misunderstandings. Now, your first 90 days have passed. You are still in the learning phase, but you are starting to get the hang of how things work.
In The Four Agreements by @DonMiguelRuiz, he advises his readers to make #fouragreements with themselves when moving through life. One of those agreements is especially applicable when you are a new hire: “Don’t Take Anything Personally.”
Don’t fret when you get an acronym wrong, or need to send a second email to a group because you made a mistake in the first one.
Don’t get offended when your opinion on a topic is not selected because it is in the minority and not the majority.
As a new employee, there is a learning curve you will have to adjust to. As long as you are progressing along the curve, you shouldn’t beat yourself up.
It’s important to keep this agreement in mind in the workplace. You could think a colleague or supervisor has a gripe with you because they corrected you on a few occasions or marked up your drafts to a point that it is hardly recognizable anymore. What I have learned is that some people like to have things written or presented in a certain way, and maybe you just haven’t learned their way quite yet. That preference is usually due to the fact that they have been doing it that way for 6 or 7 years.
Even after #90days, I’m still learning and trying to pin down concepts. I frequently attempt to summarize my day or meetings in a way that will allow me to get the main points or takeaways. After I have written my notes, I also discuss them with my supervisor to make sure I got everything right. During each conversation, there has been a fact or observation I missed because I was unaware, or it went over my head.
Each time my supervisor adds another piece of information, I could have taken it personally and concluded that they thought I wasn’t paying attention. But that’s not the case.
Instead, I am taking the initiative to make sure I am picking up on the things I was supposed to, and taking a chance to learn more. During those meetings, I am only bringing what I learned, but my supervisor is bringing a wealth of information and historical context to help me along the way. I appreciate my supervisor taking the time to explain and help me grow in my role.
The first 90 days were not easy—I spent several weekends working on assignments so I would not get behind, reviewing concepts too many times to count so I would not be too confused in meetings, and then thinking of how I could make my mark and contribute in a way that is valuable.
These 90 days were the start of my growth and moving forward. I have committed to not taking it personally when I continue to have moments where it shows I am new in my role.
Being the new person is fun, so enjoy it and know that this bumpy road you are on is leading you to rise!
***Disclaimer: 2018. All rights reserved. All data and information provided on this site is for informational purposes only. No reproduction of any content on the website without the express permission of the author. The text, pictures and videos are the sole property of FirstGenRise.