Dear First Gen,

The #coronavirus turned the world upside down. Academic institutions were rocked by a sudden public health emergency and were encouraged to shutdown to mitigate the spread of the virus. Colleges and universities canceled in-person classroom instruction and switched to online/distance learning. Students who never took an online course were forced to learn in this way and communicate with professors through online platforms.

The coronavirus pandemic also changed the structure of graduation ceremonies, summer placements, and athletic trainings. The lives of ALL students were abruptly altered. Students reacted in so many ways by changing how the process new information, study, organize, connect with fellow classmates, apply to internships, interview, and etc.

We interviewed three students and asked them to share their perspective on how they are reacting to #COVID19. Our guests and topics were:

• ​#MentalHealth & Student Athletes with Shelbi White, Masters of Social Work, Class of 2021
• Summer Education Opportunities with Nkechi Amadi, School of Pharmacy, Class of 2023
• Official #Graduation Celebrations Canceled with Adam Gilmore, Bachelors of Finance & Entrepreneurship, Class of 2020

At the end of the interview series, the conversation weaved into a theme of balancing school obligations and personal needs. Click on the images below to watch the interviews. Enjoy!

Fellow Riser,

​Irnande

Dannielle is the founder of First Gen Money, a financial literacy company that focuses on the first-generation population, those who are first to graduate from college or build wealth in the U.S. Dannielle hopes to empower and educate Latinas in their money journeys.

Born and raised Jersey girl with Ecuadorian immigrant parents, Dannielle graduated from Rutgers University in 2015 with a Political Science and Women’s and Gender Studies Degree, along with over $30,000 in student loan debt. As of December 2019, Dannielle lives debt-free, having paid off $26,385 in 26 months.​

The First Gen Experience and Handling of Money

I enjoyed my interview of Dannielle during the 2019 FinCon.
​She spoke about the various influences in her money decisions and reaction to #FinCon.

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Dear First Gen,

I had the esteemed honor of meeting Paul C. Brunson (@PaulCBrunson) in the flesh. So excited!

I am a proud email subscriber and have been for years. Paul's newsletters highlighted his latest projects and future coaching opportunities. In 2018,  I saw the announcement (finally had the courage to) submit by application, interviewed, and then accepted into one of his #Mastermind Groups. Unbelievable! And, since then, I have dutifully taken notes of his wisdom and teachings.

Below is a video of his advice on how to approach #publicspeaking. 

Fellow Riser,

Irnande

Hi First Gen,

History is happening for all #Haitians, #HaitianAmericans, and supporters of #Haiti Mens' Soccer! 

For the first time in history, the Haiti National Football Team is in the quarterfinals of the Gold Cup! WOW! In the first half the team was down by 2 goals and in the second half there was a comeback. I enjoy a good comeback story and Haiti's was on display for all to watch. Listen to my opinion of the result. You are never down unless you stay down. 

As a former #soccer player, I understand the tremendous effort it takes mentally and physically to achieve this outcome. I applaud Haiti's National Men's Football Team. #CaribbeanHeritageMonth

Fellow Riser,

​Irnande

Dear First Gen,

As a First Gen, I like to triple check that my next step is based on facts and assurances, but some decisions need only faith. I started this blog by leaping and without knowing the specifics of the schools that would support it and students who would rely on the information. Now, the blog has evolved into highlighting outstanding First Gens, guest posts from First Gens, challenges, a book and audiobook, speaking engagements, and much more to come.

In the spirit of living beyond your wildest dreams, I encourage you to "leap, and the net will appear." Best of Luck!

Fellow Riser,

Irnande


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Dear First Gen,

Has a friend or family member you have known for 5-10 years made you feel unlike yourself? Has someone close to you asked, "who are you?"

I am proudly not the same person I was when I left college, graduate school, or law school. It was not intentional, but my new persona took form with each new life experience. A fellow first gen told me once that I carried myself differently when I celebrated events. I was also questioned about my interests in certain leisure activities. Who knew it would invite so many puzzled looks and thoughts?

Former First Lady #MichelleObama will publish her first book this year and it is entitled #Becoming. In the video below, I relate the title of her book to me consistently being asked at various stages in my life, who are you? I share how I really feel when asked. 

Tell me: What is your opinion of this question? How have you responded?

Fellow Riser,

​Irnande

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Dear First Gen,

Happy New Year! #NewYearNewMe

What worked well for you in 2017? Are you continuing with it in 2018? In the video, I share three character traits I believe helped to elevate me last year and one #weakness I plan to eliminate because it limited my rise.

Tell me: What three characteristics helped you to shine? What characteristic held you back from progress?

Fellow Riser,

​Irnande

​Dear First Gen,

​I told you in my last post about my journey to healing. But some of you may be saying, “Am I allowed to heal? Am I allowed to feel hurt?”

This is something I struggled with for years. And my fellow first gens, I believe you and I have every right to feel hurt, but also every right to seek #healing.

But just as we've battled other #hardships, there will always be others who tell us we have no right to feel hurt.

Some say that if we do not like it here, we should go home. How is that so if we were born here or escaped to #America for refuge? America is our home. We are home!

For more than 30 years I have been living under a veil and recently it was removed from my eyes. My intimate circle is nothing like what I have seen in the news recently. When I hosted a launch party for my blog, the friends who came to support me came from different backgrounds, and I am proud to call them my #circleofinfluence.

When I hear harsh words from people that seek to diminish the value and beauty of multiple races and ethnicities to only leverage their own, it shocks me because when I look at my first gen community, we are so much more than our complexions. What is more alarming is that the hurt and pain we feel from these images and statements are often silenced. We are not given the right to feel hurt, to work through the pain, or to heal. We are told, “If you don't like it, go home.”

Below is a video on my authentic, vulnerable perspective on the topic of #immigrants in America. First gens, this is our home. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. #celebratefirstgen

Dear First Gen,

My whole life, I have not stopped to heal.

What does it mean to heal anyway?

Every choice or decision I have made in my schooling and my career was for a reason beyond my own self-interests. I excelled in school because it was necessary for my family. I put in long hours at work because I had a reputation to uphold. I sacrificed taking several days off work despite many days feeling under the weather or overly committed.

I have been going and going, like a nonstop flight, and I have not taken time to check in with myself. Maybe I need to be making time to heal.

You may be wondering what I need to #heal from.

Well, I never took time to heal from the instruments that I was prohibited from playing. Or the birthday celebrations I didn't have. The vacations I didn't take and the summer camps I didn't attend. The “normal” childhood I missed out on.

Or how about healing from being seen as someone accepted into school or offered a job under #affirmativeaction policies rather than for my own merit? Or the countless hours I spend rewriting emails in fear that I'll come off as “another incoherent person with immigrant parents”?

It can be exhausting having to defend myself if I use an accent when saying certain words, speak to my parents in their native language, or have my credentials questioned even after putting in the work to be seen as a qualified applicant.

Individually, these instances may not leave a lasting mark. But built up over decades, being continually questioned and having to prove myself, it's possible that I need some time to heal.

It is rare for me to share this publicly. I was raised to believe that there were certain things I would not be afforded, so I had to be strategic and intentional when pursuing each and every goal in my life. It was always reinforced that nothing was going to come easy for me. I was not born into any privilege, and I would always have to work for what I wanted.

When I wrote my first blog post, I started to heal from the various #unapologetically first-gen moments I have lived. How? Other people reached out to me to let me know they went through the same things, or would share their own story with me.

After I posted “Hard Knock Life of a First Gen,” my cousin who is in high school told me that his mom took him out of trumpet class to focus on science. We spoke to my aunt about how it made him feel and she said that he can take trumpet lessons when he is older.

It is possible that it's too late for this cycle to be broken, but my cousin did not harbor any ill feelings about his mother's decision. Just like me, he understood the bigger picture that all first gens learned at a very early age.

Our families came to the United States to achieve The American Dream. But often, this constant reminder can be hard to swallow and doesn't give us the time we may need to heal those wounds of what might have been in our childhoods.

As an adult, I have been reminded of the importance of healing. Now, I make it a priority to find space and time to heal because it has helped me to recognize why I may act a certain way when something is withheld from me or when I feel “robbed” of certain moments.

For me, healing was and is necessary. I just wish I'd learned that sooner in life.

Tell me: Have you made time to heal? If so, how do you heal?

Fellow Riser,

​Irnande



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Dear First Gen,

​When I think about my journey, I am reminded that I did not arrive where I am today on my own. There were a few amazing advisors and mentors that guided me along the way. They offered me good advice that I share with my interns and others I believe would benefit from the information.

But it wasn't always easy to find a good mentor, either. There were instances when I sought someone to be my advisor/mentor and it yielded great results. Other times, I had to kindly distance myself from people because I no longer saw a benefit to our relationship.

When I was a student, my assigned career advisors served me well. I remain connected with a couple of them to this day. But there were several times I decided to venture out and speak to the head advisor.

In college, I attempted to meet with different advisors because they rotated in and out of the positions. I needed to meet with several of them so they would know my needs and be able to assist me when someone else was not available. In this case, I couldn't have a “regular” advisor.

I made it a point to meet with the Dean of the Career Development Office in undergrad because this individual was consistent and possessed invaluable information, like access to off-campus positions I needed for my field placement courses.

In law school, I scheduled advising appointments with the Dean of the Career Development Office as well. He had expertise about positions I was seeking and told me about the school’s reciprocity policy, which I used even after I graduated. My meetings with him were always helpful and I usually went to him even after I had met with the other advisors if they were unable to help me in the way I was looking for.

Whether I wanted to know how to work in a judge’s chamber or for a non-profit, locally or in my home state, my initial meeting with an advisor often clued me in how our working relationship would work. I became a good judge of not only who would be accepting of my numerous questions, but also who would give me a thorough explanation. I was looking for specific and actionable advice on the process or strategies to improve my chances of getting an internship or securing a job.

The common thread among each advisor I encountered was their willingness to help upon seeing that I was eager to be guided. They understood that I would not stop seeking their help until I obtained the results I was looking for. I sometimes learned after the fact that they talked with one another to find a different approach for helping me reach my goal.

Over the past 10 years, I have identified a key characteristic I look for in an effective mentor: their openness to serve as a mentor.